Last month I had the opportunity to guest post on
Mama Marchand’s Nest. If by chance you missed it, you can read my post below on learning to say no.
Do you ever find yourself in situations you don’t want to be
in? For instance, having to cancel your plans because you let a friend borrow
your car to make a quick run to the store and three hours later you are still
waiting for your car. Or the classmate who never takes notes but always asks to
borrow yours. And lets not forget that co-worker who always tries to push their
work off on you. When you think about most of the stressful situations we end
up in, many of them could have been avoided by saying one little word: No.
An essential part of becoming fabulous is being actively
involved in the decisions that affect your life. For a long time, it was hard
for me to say no to others. I didn’t want to let them down or I felt guilty
about it. It took me years to learn to say no but I finally mastered it and so
can you by trying these simple tips.
Know you rights
Understand that you have the right to say no.
Role-play saying no or say the word out loud
to yourself. Think of different experiences
and visualize yourself saying no.
Write it down.
If you don’t feel comfortable saying no
then send it in an email or text, or say it in a letter or on a cute little
note card.
Not meaning to sound cliché but no means
no. You do not have to provide an explanation or excuse.
Avoid saying “Maybe” and “I don’t know.”
Deep in your heart you know what you answer
is. If you need time to make your decision, simply say, “let me think about and
I’ll get back to you.”
In the end, it is your decision so use it wisely. Always
remember to stand your ground and let your No’s mean no. Be prepared for people
to become upset with you. But honestly, are you willing to trade in your
happiness for theirs.
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